You can't change it after the fact, you would need to cancel the job and start again with proper settings.
If you did choose the right tray and there is nothing interfering with the selection (Choose paper source by pdf page size in Acrobat/Reader comes to mind) then the driver you have is incorrect, go to Xerox.com and grab a new driver.
I am trying to print a 2-side job using tray 1, and even though I KEEP specifying tray 1, it keeps wanting manual feed. Why? I have checked everything. Is there a way/button to tell it to cancel manual feed and chose tray 1 without canceling the whole job?